The future Mr. & Mrs. Lopez!
Say "Yes" to the Right Dress!
The countdown is on! As many of you know, we have been busy over the past few months planning our son, Carlos, and DIL to be, Christie's, destination wedding in Puerto Rico - I can't believe the big day is a little over a month away!! One of the proudest days in a Mother's life is the day her Son or Daughter gets married. Along with the excitement of this emotional millstone, there's also a bit of stress involved when it comes to finding the perfect dress to wear for the momentous occasion. I've found there are many details to consider when choosing the right dress and I've compiled a list of a few helpful do's and don'ts for MOB/MOG's. By following these simple tips, you'll be sure look and feel fabulous on this special day!
DO consult with the Bride
Before you start dress shopping, talk with the bride about what you should wear. She will have a vision for her big day and an idea of what she and her bridesmaids will be wearing. Ask her if she has any suggestions and keep her desires in mind when dress shopping.
I'm lucky, because our darling bride, Christie, told both her Mom and me that she wants us both to wear something that makes us feel good and that, most importantly, she wants us both to be comfortable in in our dresses. So, once your bride has chosen her dress and the bridesmaids dresses, that's your cue to start looking for yours!
DO coordinate with the wedding theme
The theme of the wedding will dictate the type of dress you're looking for. If it's a daytime wedding, you may want to choose a shorter dress and for a formal evening wedding, a long gown would be most appropriate. Will you be outside or on the beach? What will the weather be like? Consider the venue, time of year and wedding theme when choosing your dress. If the ceremony is in a church or synagog, and your dress is a bit bare, be sure to have a shawl, jacket or wrap to cover your shoulders for the ceremony.
DON'T match the bridesmaids (and DON'T wear white!)
Somebody told me once that when it comes to weddings the Mother of the Groom should "shut up, show up and wear beige"!! Well, you know I'll be showing up, but I'm not so sure about the other two - haha! However, when choosing the color of your dress, be sure to NOT to wear white - unless your bride specifically requests this. I was once a bridesmaid in a girlfriend's "all white" wedding and in this case we all wore white :) Also, do not wear the same color as the bridesmaids. For example, if the bridesmaids are wearing lilac, you may choose to wear a richer purple dress that will compliment the wedding colors. You could also wear a contrasting color in blue, rose, or grey. As long you don't clash with the wedding party, you should choose a color that you look great in.
DO choose a style that's right for you
When choosing a dress style, the most important thing is for you to feel comfortable. Mother of the Bride/Groom dresses have become much more glamorous, so even though it's the brides day, it's ok for you to shine! Think of the bride as the star of the show and you are the supporting actress. Avoid choosing a dress that shows too much cleavage or a dress that is too short and shows too much leg. There are so many beautiful styles to choose from, find one that flatters your figure (look for waist definition and a flattering neckline) and choose a dress you can move in.
DO consult with each other
Traditionally, the Mother of the Bride will shop for her dress first and then let the Mother of the Groom know what she has chosen. Both Mothers will want to have the same length dresses - so if MOB is wearing a long dress, MOG should follow suit. Also, the MOB and MOG should not match! Wear complimentary, but different colors. For example, if the bride's mom chooses to wear sapphire blue, MOG could wear another jewel tone like emerald green, deep rose, or amethyst. Black is also a popular color today for Mother of the Brides/Grooms - especially for a formal, evening reception. Other popular choices for dress colors are metallics - platinum, silver, champagne, or antique gold can all look beautiful and compliment many bridal party color schemes.
DON'T dress dowdy
Gone are the days of bland, matronly MOB/MOG attire. The trend today is for MOB/MOG to look chic and modern - don't be afraid to show your arms and shoulders. Of course, may women want to cover the arms and there are many gorgeous dress styles with long sleeve or bolero style jackets that are both sophisticated and figure flattering. The most important this is for you to feel confident in your dress - Choose a dress that is elegant and that reflects your personal style.
DON'T wait until the last minute
It's a good idea to start shopping early - 6 months is not too soon! I chose my dress back in June, but you'll have to wait until February to see it! You can go to local dress shops and there are dozen's of options on line. A few of our HSN designers have gorgeous MOB/MOG dresses you may want to look at for inspiration. Check out Badgley Mischka, Naeem Kahn, and David Meister's online boutiques for many beautiful dress ideas. Be prepared to try on several dresses, and don't buy a dress in a size too small in hopes that you'll be losing weight to fit into it. Buy your right size - if you lose weight before the wedding, you can always have your dress altered to get the perfect fit.
DO wear the proper undergarments when trying on dresses
When you head out for a day of dress shopping be sure to wear the right undergarments. A great fitting bra and slim wear will make a world of difference in how the dresses will look. You should also bring a camera with you - take a photo in the dresses to remind yourself later of how they looked on you.
DON'T forget about hair, make-up and accessories
After you find the right dress, don't forget about make up and accessories. Find shoes and a small purse that will coordinate with your dress. Metallics are always a great choice (silver/platinum for cool colors, gold/bronze for warm colors). For hair, many Mom's have a stylist do their hair and make up the day of the wedding. I'll be doing a separate blog with ideas for perfect wedding make up! If it makes you more comfortable, do a practice session with your stylist to be sure you're happy with how your hair and make up will look. For jewelry, find a beautiful earring that will bring extra light and sparkle to your face and compliment your dress! Keep tissue, lip gloss, mints and a camera in your purse - and don't forget to wear waterproof mascara!
There you have it, hope these tips will come in handy when you shop for your dress. If you have any questions for me, leave them below and I'll be happy to help in any way I can. The most important advice iI can give is to relax and to have a great time (I hope to do the same!). Have fun celebrating your joyous event!!